Hanging out vs dating college
An even more old-fashioned word was "wooing." Don't you kind of like that term?
Trying to woo someone — to win their affection — it was a real challenge, and an exciting one, and a worthy one. Just hanging out is a little annoying and wasteful when you are 17, but it's even worse when you're 27, and it will be totally old and boring when you are 37.
With so much language swimming around the action of spending time with someone you like, it's no surprise it's hard to define "date."And guys are no exception.
I don't care if you're the most self-confident, well-adjusted person around; rejection hurts. So instead of asking the person on a date, you go on approximations of dates that allow for plausible deniability of all romantic intentions. Fear of rejection alone has resulted in the proliferation of Starbucks like a French-roasted virus.
It makes the remaining friendship awkward at best, and humiliating at worst. People suffer through this in the hope that the object of their affection will eventually buckle and reveal his or her true feelings. They keep making up excuses to hang out, hedging all their bets and waiting for God to give them a sign.
While I was doing research for , the biggest complaint I heard from Christian women was that Christian men weren't assertive enough.
They described men who drove them crazy by calling and hanging around while never asking them out on a real date.