Dating someone who is older than you
I reached the point when the only viable comparison I could find was Carrie and Big.And I don’t care which side of the Big fence you sit on, Carrie and Big had a fucked-up power dynamic.Here are 5 things you experience when you date somebody older than you: A norm in our society is generally that the guy in heterosexual relationships is older.This is pretty much bulls*** relevant to all of the sexism that exists in our culture around hetero relationships, such as that the guy should be "bigger, stronger, less emotional, the protector of the much weaker woman." It's just usually assumed by people at first glance, so when they find out that's not the case, there can be some (completely unnecessary) awkwardness.I did what any millennial does – I took my niggling questions to Google.Few search results gave me the story I wanted to hear. Of somebody in their twenties in a relationship with somebody older, which didn’t involve sugar daddies, psychological abuse or nostalgia from couples now in their fifties and seventies.Obviously, there is some teasing towards you that gets old (no pun intended), really, really fast. No matter what, it's all just words, and most people forget about the age thing very quickly so those comments will fade.Sometimes, you worry that you won't be taken as seriously by your significant other's parents because you're not "at the same stage of life" as them, or something similar. Once their parents get to meet you, they will (hopefully) like you for who you are, and your age shouldn't really matter to them in the end.
What began as a romantic adventure into unconventional love turned into a disaster I should have seen coming from waaaay over the hill. How old you actually are doesn't necessarily have a lot to do with your lifestyle.
In an attempt to redress the balance of real-life May-September stories I couldn’t find, I’m telling mine.
My girlfriend Keri Szewczyk is just under a year older than me. Much of the negativity surrounding the younger person in a relationship revolves around people outside your relationship making sly comments.
That said; the positives of marrying someone older have been rapidly lost in a world where “young love” is often touted as the best kind. You’ll always be the “young one.”After all, she’s old, too.
And by that, I don’t mean “you won’t ever have financial trouble,” rather, when you do have issues, he’ll probably be stable enough from maturity and that he won’t freak out.