Dating matches for the disabled
As we stood in line to order, the commotion in that place was unmissable.Only, I saw a couple sitting absolutely quietly; till I realised that they were conversing through sign language.There are almost 1.2 billion disabled people world over, but just because fate hasn't been as kind on them as it has on us, do they not deserve a shot at happiness? Thanks to a ground-breaking app called Inclov, which I recently heard about.As suggested, Inclov--a matchmaking app--focus on people with disability by making it accessible to them."I started using Tinder during a "dry period" of men in my life.A concerned friend made the decision for me--"that's it, you're downloading Tinder"--and hence I jumped the bandwagon." That's a sentence that's all too common for any new millennia youngster "looking to find love".My good friend and occasional partner in online dating woes, who has Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, once, with a healthy dose of irony, called it our “Lather, rinse, repeat” routine. I wish the word “autism” didn’t come anchored with a variety of damaging misconceptions, falsehoods, and ableist notions of what I was like as a person and a potential dating partner.(“Ableism” is discrimination or social prejudice against people with disabilities.) At first, I left my disability off my profile, and decided to speak of myself in extreme generalities, hoping to attract more people.
I eventually tried making it obvious in my profile picture.The app is accessible to people with visual impairment, colour blindness and retina disorders through optimal readability of profile pages to ensure they don't have to depend on their friends and family members to look for a life partner.With 6000 users and 2000 matches, Inclov is a community for people who want to find love differently.It’s the common experience of those of us who choose to be open and honest about our disabilities, and after a while, the rejections are expected, but still not pleasant to deal with.Each time it happens, I start over again with somebody else.